Your thoughts have massive potential to create ripples throughout your life, most of the time people think they are having a bad or a good day and that it has nothing to do with them, they are the helpless victim of external circumstances that either caused them to kick some seriously great goals, or experience a complete shocker.
It seems such an easy thing to say doesn't it? Choose your thoughts.
Most of the time we think before we speak, So what happens when we are not aware of our poor thoughts and then we speak? I can tell you what happens, we put a massive blast of energy out into our lives and out into the world that has the potential to cause chaos. Our lives become something of a soap opera with well meaning friends feeding the energy by continually checking in on what is happening with the daily weekly monthly and sometimes yearly saga. You might lose the friend or boyfriend that is giving you hassles but they are replaced by new friends or boyfriends with new problems. The real conflict is not actually with them or because of them its the inner conflict that you haven't resolved from past hurts old programming from your childhood a whole range of reasons,
A few old friends from many years ago got in contact with me recently, we hadn't had a fall out of any sort but suddenly they were just not in my life in a time when I needed them most, how dare they I thought when I was in crisis, 'fair weather friends I cried' the going gets tough, and you walk away from me. All the years of being a great friend sharing my daily and weekly dramas and you click your heels twice and are no where to be seen.
But see it was no mistake that those people were in my life, or left it at the time that they did, just as your partner, your ex partner, your kids, the nightmare landlord, the boss that kills you is no mistake either. It's called divine timing, everyone is where they need to be for the lessons they need to learn at that moment, and more often than not we are put together with other characters that have the potential for maximum mutual growth.
They are characters to play a role in your very own movie called 'life', that were strategically selected by the universe to teach you lessons that help you evolve spiritually. And remember, our souls chose this path before we were here. Do you honestly think its a stoke of bad lack or complete co incidence that the people that drive you nuts enter your life?
So what did I learn from being in the middle of crisis with seemingly no one? We have to be captain of our own ship. How ironic really, my little boys father back in the day when he was my personal trainer used to say "Common Nay you have to be captain of your own ship!! you want to be strong fit and healthy you have to make choices to get enough sleep be consistent with your exercise, and eat healthy food its all your choice, you are totally in control. Those words rang with me for a long time. How very bizarre that my rock bottom moments came, as a result of being with that same man that had previously drilled me with the knowledge on how to get the results out of life that I wanted? It was the one good piece of advise he gave me from the heart that if I took would have never experienced the lows that I did with him..
During my relationship with him when I spoke I spoke from a place of anger, my patience had run thin, I was unhappy, judgemental, bitter, condescending, and went it all collapsed in a heap with me in the middle I was after revenge and it showed. It showed in the way I dealt with everyone in life from the lady at the shop that gave me too much change through to the lack of patience I had for drivers on the road or even the little ol granny crossing the street ever so slowly.
There is only so long you can stomach negativity like that until it starts to spew out of you. And when it spews out of you it affects everyone around you, initially good friends do stick around, but if you fail to become captain of your own ship and you allow the negativity to spew endlessly people get sick of it. No ones wants to feel like they have been hit by a bat of stress everytime they speak to you - it drags them down into your pitt of darkness. A darkness that you created from your thoughts your words and your actions. So the smart ones ( like my friends) hop off. Why? They are being the Captain of their own ship, for if they choose to get sucked into drama they too will end up no different to the way I was - caught up in someone elses "Stuff". One of the most basic things to apply to help you move out of the poor me Im a victim role is to think this - how someone treats you is a reflection of how they feel.. stop taking it personally, get over yourself for a moment, it isnt even about you its actually all about them.., if you choose to stick around and let the fact they are not in control of their own happiness affect your own happiness It would actually pay for you to quit pointing the finger, better still go look in the mirror instead and ask yourself various questions like what is the lesson here for me? A great psychic Medium Anthony Grzelka (www.whispersfrombeyond.com.au) told me after I asked him why me Anthony why? Im trying so so so hard.. He answered, well you know Renee everything happens for a reason sometimes it complex but sometimes it can be simply be a dual lesson, the lesson is for you to walk away and for the other person that you walked away. For those of us that have grown up with the old school parents that feel you stick in marriage no matter what , you can easily forget that walking away is an option if it has not been part of your programming.
So with those wise words from Anthony I walked away. I began making choices that involved me finding peace internally, all of a sudden magically I had no drama, friends started getting in contact again, isnt it amazing when you get something tangible like 4 old friends calling you in the same week that you hadnt spoken with in ages that suddenly thought of you collectively when you managed to raise your vibarational frequncy? Somewhere in the universal computer a signal must have been put out to let those people know hey guys Ive found me... Im back in business! Life started to take a different path to the one I thought was comfortable, we always mistake the word familiar with comfortable don't we? If we know something, we think its comfortable when more often than not its anything but.
How do you move from negative feelings about someone to feeling great when nothing about them has changed? This can be applied to a troubled friendship, an ex partner, a parent, anyone.
I changed my own thoughts my own feelings my own words. You begin to forgive, not forgive what they have done just forgive at that moment that they didn't have the spiritual know how to make better choices. It cant be a happy place for these people that hurt others, they end up being disliked and in constant conflict and as tough as they might act, that's not a great space for anyone to be in. So you start to view them as a character that is put there in your life movie to instigate change within you. What a gift. When you start to look at these so called obstacles as opportunities for you to evolve and grow its a very different feeling. You explore why you put up with certain things, such as have you always been answerable to your parents even as an adult? Did you put up with a particular partner because deep down you needed to work on your own self worth? Sometimes we have to peel back the layers of the onion and get to the bottom of who we are and when we are forced to do that through our life experience it can hurt, the bright side is, when you can lose the fear of pain because you have been there it no longer becomes this territory that is in the back of your mind that you are too scared to explore. You make a choice, you start choosing your thoughts to be positive choosing your words wisely for you know if you don't it will only hurt you, and there comes a point where you have to stop hurting yourself. Choice is an amazing word. I have a girlfriend that was a very close friend that I worked with when I was younger that is currently in prison where she has been the past 4 years. She started out when she was there blaming anyone and everyone it must have taken her 2 years before she stopped that but she did. Its a pity that it took a lesson like prison for her to get to that point, some people get the little tap on the shoulder to learn others require a king hit from the Universe, but if you are in touch with yourself its easy to know when things are not good long before they are really bad. I asked her this - what is it you are looking forward to next year when you get out? She said in this totally surrendered voice - Oh Renee - Choice - Choice, I want Choice....... Again the Irony as it was choice that landed her in there in the first place and by making the wrong choices it took choice completely away. What to wear - no choice, when to sleep -no choice, when to wake - no choice. Choice is now a luxuary that she is going to embrace. She has now come to understand we choose our thoughts and if we don't choose wisely eventually we end up with no choice.
Take the time today to choose your thoughts, choose your words wisely because ultimately they become your destiny. You are the Captain of your own ship at every moment so jump on board and sail the sea of life.
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